My children are inquisitive. When I am driving they ask at least one question per minute. Sometimes, their questions come so quickly and loudly I cannot hear my own thoughts.
I feel like my brain is being hijacked.
Often, when I sit down to write, I feel the same way. I try to engage my mind with the world of words but my mind is under new management. I am no longer in control.
In this case, however, the voices are not those of my children. They are voices from within.
Silencing those voices is my secret to finding my creative flow.
Internal negative voices come in many forms.
- There is the Critic—“That’s not good enough.”
- There is the Cynic—“No one is going to read it.”
- There is the Doubter—“Perhaps writing is not for you.”
And, of course, all of their friends.
These voices take up residence in our minds and prevent us from creating.
If we want to release our writing voice we must silence these squatters.
Here is how I silence the voices in my head.
Recognize the voice.
At first, all my internal voices sound like my own. They sound like my thoughts. However, whenI listen closely, I discover something different.
Most of these voices actually come from people around me—friends, family, teachers, leaders.
One voice I regularly hear as I sit down to write says, “Your not a writer. You are just faking it. Shouldn’t you be using your time for something more productive?”
It is really hard to create something compelling with this message echoing in my brain.
But, as I have given attention to the voice, I recognized it. It sounds familiar.
When I was in high school I met with my guidance counselor to talk about college options. She asked me what subjects I enjoyed. I told her I liked Biology and Math. She swiveled in her chair and looked in her big book of careers. Rotating back towards me she said, “You should be a Biomedical Engineer.”
And so, I went to engineering school.
Today, 20 years later, when I sit down to write, my old guidance counselor swivels around in my mind, looks in her book, and asks, “Writing? That’s not what it says in my book.”
I have allowed her to take residence in my mind. She drones on and on, “You are not a writer, you’re an engineer.” And because of her voice, I struggle to call myself a writer.
But now that I recognize her voice I am on the way to evicting her completely.
There is power in calling something by its real name.
Reject the Voice.
Once I recognize the voice, I speak back.
Here is where we get a little psychoanalytical. As long as that person has power over me, that voice will have power over me. I need to let them know that they don’t own me and can’t tell me what to do.
What relevance does my high school guidance counselor have on my life today?
Only the relevance I allow her to have.
What power does a voice have in your life? Only to power you allow it to have.
- Don’t allow a bully from middle school to still determine how you view yourself.
- Don’t allow a side comment from a parent to overshadow the truth.
- Don’t allow a past failure to lead you into failure today.
- Don’t allow one discouraging person to prevent you from getting your work out to the thousands who will be encouraged by it.
Reject the voice.
Note: This might require hard conversations with real people. This might require a little confrontation. This might require discomfort.
But, how much is your freedom worth? It’s sure hard to create with unwanted guests living in your mind.
Replace the voice with the truth
Just because I remove a voice one day does not mean it will not come back the next. To rid myself of negative inner voices I must replace them with the truth.
- My guidance counselor did not create me.
- She did not determine my gifts and talents.
- She is not God’s representative to dictate my life’s direction.
- If God gave me the desire and skill to write, then I should write.
That’s the truth.
And, the truth, when spelled out, is powerful.
Now, I am not talking about made up, wishful mantras. Just saying, “I’m the best writer ever!” does not make it true. The truth is, your probably not. Neither am I. There are many who write better than you and I.
When we use this wishful thinking, we only replace a lie with a lie. It’s like drinking a Coke. Sure you will get a burst of energy but it can’t sustain you.
But there is truth that sustains:
- You are a unique creation. – Tweet this.
- No one writes exactly like you. – Tweet this.
- If you don’t write, you cheat the world of your voice. – Tweet this.
- There are readers waiting for your writing, you just have to write and find them. – Tweet this.
That’s the truth.
When you recognize, reject, and replace the negative voices in your head, you will discover the beauty of a quiet mind. And your unique voice will flow out onto the page.
How do you silence your negative voices? Share in the comments.
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