June 2021

Writing is hard. Revising is hard too—in fact, often, it’s even harder. And both are so much more difficult and challenging than you ever imagine the first time you sit down to write a novel, or a short story, or a memoir. As you work and work and work in pursuit of perfection, and as you deal with feedback from beta readers and book editors like me, encountering again and again everything you’re doing wrong, you can’t keep the thought from squirming its way into your head:

Does this suck? Do I suck?

Note: This is a guest post by Developmental editor Harrison Demchick. Harrison came up in the world of small press publishing, working along the way on more than eighty published novels and memoirs. He’s also the author of 2012 literary horror novel “The Listeners” and short stories including “Tailgating” (Tales to Terrify, 2020) and “The Yesterday House” (Aurealis, 2020), and as a screenwriter his first film Ape Canyon was released in April 2021. Harrison is currently accepting new clients in fiction and memoir at the Writer’s Ally

Speaking as an editor who has worked on many, many novels and memoirs over the last fifteen years: probably not. Or at least no more than everyone else.

But whenever it should happen that you find yourself convinced of exactly the opposite, here are some important ideas to keep in mind.

First Drafts are Never Final Drafts

Ask any editor if an author has ever sent them a perfect first draft and you’ll probably get the same answer: No. Never. Not even close.

I’ve certainly never seen one. I sure as heck haven’t written one. And the very simple reason for that is that you discover the story you want to tell through the process of writing it. This is true whether you outline and plan carefully and revise as you go or fly by the seat of your pants toward a completed draft, because under any circumstances things change during the writing. It’s so hard to see the forest while you’re still planting the trees.

It’s true as well that every next draft has a considerable advantage over the first: the previous draft. Once it’s there, and you’ve written it, you can see what works and what doesn’t. You can see what you were trying to do all along and where you missed the mark. And you need that knowledge to write a truly great manuscript.

In other words: Of course the first draft isn’t perfect. You don’t have all the information yet. How could it be?

Everybody Makes Mistakes—and Usually the Same Ones

Are you struggling with overwriting? Or underwriting? Are you having trouble developing conflict and tension throughout the manuscript? Or determining your characters’ motivations? Or building effectively through the rising action toward the climax?

Well, there’s good news, and it’s good news you’ll discover anytime you find yourself surrounded by other writers: We’ve all been there. Not only do we all make mistakes in our writing, and encounter challenges while writing, but in fact they’re usually the same mistakes.

That’s the entire reason an editor like me can write posts like this. Trust me—we’ve seen it all.

Now, to be fair, no two writers are exactly the same. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Some writers can craft setting with such effortless perfection it makes you want to toss your laptop off a cliff and take up stamp collecting. But that same author may struggle enormously with moment-to-moment continuity. Another author may have a steel trap for consistent details about their characters, but stumble when it comes to the rhythm of dialogue.

But still your failings are no worse than anyone else’s. They just happen to be yours. So if you suck for making whatever mistakes you make, so does everybody else.

Your Favorite Authors Suck Too

And I do mean everybody.

The thing about chasing perfection in our writing is that we’re not usually comparing ourselves to the electricians, government bureaucrats, and stay-at-home parents writing their first draft of their first novel. Instead we compare ourselves to authors we know and books we love. A fantasy novelist compares himself to J. R. R. Tolkien. A middle grade author tries to be Beverly Cleary. A magical realist holds up their work beside the novels of Salman Rushdie.

And that’s not fair—not because they’re necessarily better than we are, but because we’re comparing our early drafts to their final drafts. These books have undergone revision after revision after revision. They’ve been battered by editors. They’ve been rejected by publishers. And the authors who wrote them have struggled to overcome their own weaknesses, and to push themselves to make it through the revision process. They’ve stayed awake deep into the night questioning their life choices. They’ve doubted themselves.

In other words, they thought they sucked.

If your first draft doesn’t resemble your favorite author’s final draft, it doesn’t mean you suck. It means you’re human. And so are they.

Writing is Learning

I say sometimes to aspiring writers that the difference between a writer and an author is the revision process. What I mean by that is that it’s the act of developing a draft—of taking criticism, and responding to it, and improving your work and your skills in the process—that leads your manuscript to the very best version of itself.

The reason is that writing, fundamentally, is learning. It’s learning to be a better writer. It’s learning to craft a great story. The more you work, the more you grow.

Does that mean that everyone has a genuine literary masterpiece in them? No, I wouldn’t say that. I aim to encourage, but talent does exist. Some have more of it than others, in the same way I could never have been Lebron James even if I trained and practiced slam dunks and three-pointers every day from the time I was a toddler.

Not everyone is a genius. But everyone can be a better writer than they are today. Everyone can craft a better manuscript than they have so far. You just have to be willing to put in the work and develop as an author through the experience.

If you do, the book you wind up with will not suck. In fact, it might just be the most satisfying thing you’ve ever done.

And all that self-doubt? Well, it’s just one more thing nearly all authors have in common. Those thoughts never go away entirely, but as long as you don’t let them stop you, you will create something amazing.

Have you ever thought you may quit writing?

Most writers have at one point or another, usually when facing some sort of difficulty. Maybe you’re struggling with writer’s block, you’re unhappy with your progress, or you received some negative feedback that has you doubting yourself.

Note: This is a guest post by Colleen M. Story. In her new release, Your Writing Matters, she helps writers determine whether writing is part of their life’s purpose. Her other books for writers have been recognized in the Reader’s Favorite Book Awards and Reader Views Literary Awards, and her last novel was a Foreword Reviews’ INDIES Book of the Year Awards winner. Find more at her author website.

Whatever may have caused you to question writing’s place in your future, it’s not an easy decision to keep writing. The practice takes up a lot of time, for one thing, that you may feel would be better suited doing something else. The writing journey can also be frustrating, discouraging, and disheartening, and there’s no guarantee you’ll reach the success you hope for in the end.

If you’re caught in the middle and unsure what is the best choice for you, it can help to imagine the regrets you may have in the future if you quit writing now. Imagine for a moment that you’re 90 years old and looking back on your life. Consider two scenarios: in one, you kept writing. In the other, you left it behind and went on to do something else.

Which decision would you be more likely to regret? These four questions should help you determine the answer.

1. Will I Regret Not Going After My Dream?

One of the most common regrets at the end of life is not going after your dreams. The reasons are many, from trying to be practical to not believing you can do it to wanting to live up to someone else’s expectations of who you should be. In all cases, dreams are put on the back burner until it’s too late.

For a study published in 2018, Dr. Shai Davidai from the New School for Social Research and Professor Thomas Gilovich of Cornell University conducted six experiments examining what’s behind our deepest regrets. Their results showed that “people are haunted more by regrets about failing to fulfill their hopes, goals, and aspirations than by regrets about failing to fulfill their duties, obligations, and responsibilities.”

In other words, we regret more not pursuing our dreams and letting ourselves down than we do failing to live up to others’ expectations.

Will you regret it? Do you dream of being a writer? Will you feel bad if you let this dream go? Or is there another dream you should be pursuing instead?

2. Am I Too Worried About What Others Think?

Most of us worry about what others think of us at least on some level, particularly when we’re starting out as writers.

“One of the surest ways to find unhappiness and limit your creativity is worrying about what others think of you or your work,” writes author Bryan Hutchinson over at Positive Writer. “It’s true, and I am guilty of it. But it doesn’t have to be that way.”

When you sit down to write, do you hear someone else’s voice in your head questioning or discouraging you? Be careful. Placing too much importance on what others think and not enough on what you think is one of the common regrets people have as they get older. Sure, in the moment, the opinions of others may seem important to your success and happiness, but at the end of life, what will matter most is whether you stayed true to yourself.

Will you regret it? As you look back on your life, discounting everyone else’s opinion, do you think you will regret not pursuing your writing dreams? Or will you regret, instead, spending so much time on writing when your heart is somewhere else?

3. Am I Too Focused on Being Practical?

We all make practical choices most of the time, but sometimes, practicalities can hold us back from what’s most important in life.

If you are the one who foregoes a beach vacation to save money for your child’s braces, stays in a job you don’t like to put your kids through college, or puts off retirement to fix the roof, you’re being practical, which is usually a good thing. But on occasion, making the practical choice may be something you regret, particularly if that practical decision means quitting writing.

Sometimes it pays to ignore practicalities. Cutting back on your hours (and your paycheck) for more time to devote to writing may tighten your budget, but imagine how you’ll feel within a year or so when you have a novel to show for it.

Will you regret it? Divide a sheet of paper into three vertical columns. In the first one, write down at least five decisions you’ve made concerning your writing. Examples may include whether you decided to write today, whether you made a change in your life to allow more time to write, or whether you decided to take a risk and attend a writing conference even though your budget didn’t really allow for it.

In the second column, write whether each decision was practical or impractical. In the third column, write what your 90-year-old self would think of that decision. Finally, ask yourself, “If I quit writing now for practical reasons, will I regret it 20, 30, or 40 years from now?”

4. Am I Playing It Too Safe?

Most humans prefer to play it safe most of the time. But on their deathbeds, they regret not taking more risks. This is an important regret for writers to consider because in living the writing life, pretty much everything involves risk, including:

• Thinking you may have writing potential. What if you’re wrong?
• Spending so much time writing. What if, in the end, the results disappoint you?
• Showing others your writing. What if they don’t like it?
• Publishing your writing. What if you get bad reviews?

What we can learn from the older generation is that the feeling of never having tried can gnaw at a person like a wound that won’t heal, whereas failure can be confronted and overcome. In the end, taking risks teaches us much more than playing it safe.

Will you regret it? Think back on your experience as a writer. Try to recall at least three risks you’ve taken. They can be simple risks, like showing your work to a family member or friend or attending a writing workshop. How did taking each risk turn out? Looking back, are you glad you took the chance, or do you wish you had chosen to take the safer route? What does this tell you about your future as a writer?

What Do Your Answers Tell You?

Now look back at your answers to these four questions and see if you can gather from them an overall feeling about your writing. They should help you determine whether you’re ready to quit and try something else, or if other concerns are interfering with your true desire to continue writing.

In the end, what matters are your dreams and expectations for yourself. Other, smaller concerns will fade away with time, but these will remain with you until your dying day. Remember that when deciding whether to continue writing.

Note: For more on overcoming self-doubt and deciding to be a writer no matter what, see Colleen’s new book, Your Writing Matters: How to Banish Self-Doubt, Trust Yourself, and Go the Distance. Get your free chapter here!

References

Davidai, S., & Gilovich, T. (2018). The ideal road not taken: The self-discrepancies involved in people’s most enduring regrets. Emotion, 18(3), 439-452. https://doi.org/10.1037/emo0000326

Kelley, S. (2018, May 24). Woulda, coulda, shoulda: The haunting regret of failing our ideal selves. Cornell Chronicle. https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2018/05/woulda-coulda-shoulda-haunting-regret-failing-our-ideal-selves

Pinkstone, J. (2018, May 11). People regret not following our dreams MORE than cheating. Mail Online. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-5687725/Scientists-discover-regret-not-following-dreams-cheating-partner.html

Stop worrying about what people think and create anyway. (2017, April 16). Positive Writer. https://positivewriter.com/stop-worrying-about-what-people-think-and-create-anyway/