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How to Become The Writer You Were Always Meant To Be

What would you do if you could see into your future? To see your wins and your losses before they actually happen.

What would you learn from your mistakes and blunders, and your most pain-wrenching failures?

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The better questions, after seeing your future, might be:

What risks would you still take? And what would happen to your future if you avoided any?

As much as we would like to avoid the pain of stumbling and falling, and the pain of loss and failure, those are the things, the events in your life, that make you, the flawed, yet remarkable, you.

Life’s not always easy; sometimes it’s ridiculously complicated, and sometimes it’s painful, oh, too painful.

Sometimes we wonder if we can go on, if we should go on.

We wonder. Why do we even try?

Sometimes, the days are just too damn hard, and the words come few and far between.

Sometimes we want to give in and give up. Often. Too often.

Sometimes we wish we could just get a break, just a little break, but no one seems to hear us, and some days it seems like no one cares and inside, inside it continues to hurt, hurt so much. But we try, we continue to press-on. Or, at least, we want to.

Are we good enough? We want to believe that we are.

We do. Don’t we?

But Writer’s Doubt corrupts. It makes us doubt even what we believe.

Doubt is the deal breaker. It’s the closed door with no lock and no key. It’s the one thing that causes us to give in to disbelief and fear, to dread and despair.

We need not be victims of doubt. We can overcome, defeat, and crush it.

Yes, we can!

Yes, you will.

Let’s not wish to look into the future so we can avoid failure and pain, because without failure we cannot succeed and win. Without loss we cannot gain. Without sorrow we cannot attain happiness and contentment.

The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.

–Norman Vincent Peale

We all make mistakes. We are human after all. And that’s okay.

3 Tips to build upon your awesomeness as a writer:

1) Be brave and take risks. Try things that might not work. (You can’t be brave if you already know the future.)

2) When you’re rejected, don’t give up. No, strive to become a better writer. Leap.

3) Don’t regret your mistakes. Learn from them. Allow them to make you into a better person and a better artist.

Strive to become a better writer. Leap. (Click to Tweet)

Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.

Even if you see the future, you still have to live the present, you still have to make the mistakes, you still have to fail, and you still have to live through the pain and strive to accomplish your goals and improve yourself to become the writer you were always meant to be.

You’re better than you think you are. Failure is not permanent. It’s through our mistakes and failures that we find our true voice, the direction we are meant to go from the lessons we’ve learned and the pain we have endured.

Don’t regret the events of your life, the good, the bad, or even, the ugly. Don’t wish for take-backs or do-overs.

This is your life. You’re on your path for a reason.

Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.

–Jim Rohn

You’re strong enough. And you’re good enough.

You’re awesomeness is in the getting back up and getting back at it, learning and striving to improve every day with every step you take and every word you write.

Not everyone will understand you all of the time, sometimes not even those you love and care about the most will “get you.” But that’s okay. It’s an imperfect world with imperfect outcomes. Live.

When the time is right, they’ll understand, and even if they don’t, remember they also have their lives to live and you won’t understand or “get” everything they do either. And you know what? That’s okay, too.

So get back at it. Walk your path, and if you stumble, catch yourself, pick yourself back up, and keep learning.

Stop punishing yourself. Please. We need you to keep going. We need you to keep writing. We need your words. You’re creativity and artistic touch is sorely needed in the world, especially now.

Write. For Heaven’s sake, write.

Your challenge:

Here’s your challenge, write something that has sincere meaning to you, something that terrifies you to write openly about and then publish it on your blog for the world to read.

Taking this challenge is entirely up to you, with all the responsibilities thereof your own, but if you do take this challenge, come back here and share the link to your work with us in the comments. I’ll pick the ones that really move me and tweet them and hopefully fellow readers will do the same.

If you do not have your own blog yet, consider starting one or use Medium or another public online platform.

About Bryan Hutchinson

I'm a positive writer and when that doesn't work, I eat chocolate. I help fellow writers overcome doubt and thrive! In my free time, I love visiting castles with my wife, Joan. Join me on Twitter and Facebook.

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  • http://www.peggyannkennedy.blog.com Peggy Kennedy

    https://medium.com/@peggykennedy/intro-to-my-memoir-the-hunger-of-my-heart-56d65c57c036#.pgo1keltf

    I chose to share the intro to my memoir because it has been the most difficult thing I have been writing. I have worked on it for the past 11 years and deleted it 7 times and started over. Even now I only have the intro written.

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      And it’s a good intro, Peggy. I was captivated by your description of your first encounter with your medication, or at least, the names of those meds. Keep writing. We need your story. I tweeted it.

      • http://www.peggyannkennedy.blog.com Peggy Kennedy

        Thank You

  • http://awriteradolescentmuse.wordpress.com/ Carrie Ann Golden

    It took me a long while before I was ready to share these parts of myself with my readers.

    A writer’s vulnerable heart part one http://wp.me/p2s8Vc-t4

    A writer’s vulnerable heart part two http://wp.me/p2s8Vc-to

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      You got me at: “I need to expose my inner soul, my wounded heart; I need to show my vulnerabilities through the characters, reveal them all to the world; only then, will I be able to touch readers with words.” Well said. Thank you for sharing, Carrie. Tweeted.

      • http://awriteradolescentmuse.wordpress.com/ Carrie Ann Golden

        Thanks so much! 🙂

  • http://nansampsonauthor.com/ Nan Sampson

    Awesome article! Thanks, Bryan. I took a crack at this. I don’t often share serious personal stuff on my blog, usually turning to humor, or focusing on writing and characters. But my last blog and the one I submitted this morning have taken a much more introspective tenor. Thanks for all you do! http://nansampsonauthor.com/2016/03/24/all-who-miss-their-turn-are-not-lost/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      We all need hope and we all need our Pollyanna. 🙂 Great article and thank you for sharing it. Loved the photo as well. Tweeted.

  • Paul Fahey

    I decided to try the challenge as well, Bryan. A shorter version of this piece appeared on Medium.com. I’m editing an anthology on Equality and hope to include a more in depth piece similar to the one I posted today on my Goodreads blog. Here’s the link and I’m grateful to have met you. https://www.goodreads.com/author_blog_posts/10136882-writing-challenge

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Oh Paul, you have my sincere admiration. What strength. Times have changed and then again, in too many ways, they haven’t. Stay strong. I tweeted the post, but I do not know your twitter handle. Can you let me know? Thanks!

  • Karen Sargent

    Here you go, Bryan. http://www.karensargentblog.com/?p=103 Blogging in general terrifies me. Connecting with my target audience requires a certain amount of transparency, and that can be a difficult place to go sometimes. Also, trying to balance transparency and TMI can be challenging. – I appreciate your article today. I needed the reminder.

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Hi Karen, that was a little heavy and I enjoyed the video, but I think this was important not just for you, but for a lot of readers. Well said, and thank you for sharing. Tweeted!

  • Karen Sargent

    I just want to say thank you to Paul, Nan, Carrie, and Peggy for taking Bryan’s challenge. I read–and felt–all of your posts this morning.

  • http://www.susanmarymalone.com Susan Mary Malone

    What a cool idea, Bryan. I love how you interact with other writers! Here’s my offering: http://www.susanmarymalone.com/do-i-matter/ Now, off to read the others’ posts! Thank you all for sharing them.

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Susan, oh, so true! Loved this: “If you don’t find it within, you won’t find it anywhere.” Tweeted! 🙂

      • http://www.susanmarymalone.com Susan Mary Malone

        Thanks, Bryan!

  • Donna Marie

    Hello thank you Blogging is hard for me at times and i am sharing my faith but types of that is not easy so here u go 🙂 blessings http://rosaryandredsox.com/2016/03/25/healing-balm/ enjoy your day

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      It’s not easy, but hopefully over time it gets a little easier. ( Side note, I noticed you were using photos from a stock photo site. A great place to get free images for your blog is: http://www.freeimages.com/ – I have no affiliation and it’s free.)

      • Donna Marie

        thanks bunches I greatly needed that and appreciate it 🙂 blessings

        • http://www.bdcolourdesign.net.au Bettina Deda

          Hi Donna, I use images from Unsplash.com – a great source for free images!

          • Donna Marie

            thank u i appreciate that i need all the resources i can find esp for free and helps get my msg out. blessings 🙂

  • http://www.naturalhometherapy.in Savithri Venkataramani

    Thank you, here is my blog http://www.naturalhometherapy.in,God bless.

  • Jim Holt

    Thanks for the positive words! The words seem to be flowing for me this week. I have 9 different blog posts that I’m still working on. Here’s one I had to share. https://realnativetexan.wordpress.com/2016/03/24/passion-week-what-does-that-really-mean/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Thanks for sharing your passion with us, Jim!

  • Chris Murray

    Thanks Bryan – Here’s a blog post about the conversation I’d have with 22 year old me entitled – You Got Lucky Kid, But Luck Never Lasts http://www.theessclub.com/2016/03/you-got-lucky-kid-but-luck-never-lasts/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      I enjoyed it, Chris, and the Jim Rohn quote of course. Tweeted.

      • Chris Murray

        Thanks Bryan – and thanks again for the opportunity to share – all the best, Chris

    • Tracy

      Nice article. I liked it for my 40-something self and sent it on to my 20-something daughter.

      • Chris Murray

        Thanks Tracy – really glad you enjoyed it, best regards, Chris

    • JDozier

      I thoroughly enjoyed reading your article. Great advice and to the point.

      • http://www.theessclub.com/ Chris Murray

        Thanks – really glad you enjoyed it, all the best, Chris

  • Tracy

    Thanks for the encouraging words. It’s my goal to encourage others as well – although I’m not a famous writer …yet.
    http://WordsPaintsandCamera.com

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      “Be your own Prince Charming.” Love that!
      Tweeted.

  • Marnie Pohlmann

    Sharing myself is hard, but 2016 is the year to be brave. Thanks for the encouragement and confirmation that hard can be right. I started a blog in February called Phosphorescent, at http://marniewriter.com/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Good start, Marnie! 🙂

  • Donna St-Onge Cederstrand

    Here is the link to my website. Please read the blog post entitled: MY WALK WITH JESUS http://www.donnacederstrand.com

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Oh wow, Donna, I’m glad you are here to share your story with us.

  • Barbara Neville Johnson

    https://www.facebook.com/RogueLightningbyBarbaraNeville/timeline
    Scroll down to: “Good night Hammer. Some of us need sleep…”

  • Kimberly A Brochu

    Hi Bryan. This is a great thing, thanks for the opportunity and for the outlet for all of us to read each others work! Here’s my link
    https://kimberlybrochu.wordpress.com/2016/02/20/hearing-your-message/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Perfect message, and short, too! 🙂 Tweeted.

  • Dawn Paoletta

    Hi Bryan. I shared this yesterday…and it is sincere and authentic- straight from my morning journal: http://enthusiasticallydawn.com/2016/03/24/the-revelation-prayer/

    But I also drafted a post…in response to reading this post here today…it “terrifies” me to publish it because it just is the thing I never share…the fear of insignificance in writing…and the casual comments thrown out that infuriate me from others who just don’t understand the depth of the pain we can feel as we step out in faith in our writing lives…face rejections and continue to persevere…ugh. I just am not sure if I should publish THAT post. It might be too negative- it might be too…raw. But you got me thinking and venting …and I appreciate your post today. Thank you.

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Sometimes we need to vent, and we should always think… deeply. I did enjoy the post you shared and tweeted it!

      • Dawn Paoletta

        Thank you, Bryan! I always say, this is why there is a DRAFT file! Thanks for sharing my post. 😉

    • Christine Niles

      Dawn, rants can be healthy to write–it’s important to process those feelings. But I agree with Bryan, you’re right to wait on posting it. If you’re not sure, sit on it for a few days, then look to see if you can flip it on its head. Try showing your audience how they *can* *help* their favorite writer feel significant and confident and supported and loved as they face rejection after rejection. You can work your various points in and share the reality of that pain and fear while offering a solution.

      • Dawn Paoletta

        Hi Christine, I really appreciate you taking the time to offer a thoughtful reply. I appreciate your input. I will also add, I have a great readership- the challenge is “closer to home”…those outside the readership, family , friends, and church folk…lol This may or may not make it out of drafts…time will tell. And I agree siting on some things (most) offers valuable perspective!

  • http://www.secondiron.com/ Charles Johnston

    Such a great post ! So many (myself included) allow the answer no to be our final answer. We succumb to fear and allow our voices to be silenced. One post I recently wrote on this battle with fear, albeit a bit different in style but I think it turned out pretty good. http://www.secondiron.com/open-letter-fear/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      It did turn out pretty good. Better, actually, I think. I need to write one of those letters. Tweeted!

  • Christine Niles

    I love helping growing writers get past the overwhelming barrage of advice, ditch the excuses, and focus on what they really need to do next. I wrote about it last week in The Next Step Manifesto: http://writersnextstep.com/manifesto/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Okay, first things first, Mailchimp doesn’t work at the post office? No I’m ticked!

      You know I’m a fan, Christine. Tweeted.

      • Christine Niles

        I know, right? I thought my mail carrier was getting a new helper-monkey! 🙂

        Thanks, Bryan!

  • Mrderrickt

    I hope the readers enjoy this blog about my journey as a self-indie author. Thanks. http://mrderrickt.net/the-journey-of-self-indie-author-continues/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      “Positivity needs to stand tall and be loud.” Amen, Mrderrickt. Tweeted!
      Tip: Get yourself an easy to use share plugin for your blog. If you look under my post there are several share buttons for sharing on social networks, that’s the “sharethis” plugin. Having such a plugin will help your work get noticed.

      Great job!

      • Mrderrickt

        Thank you very much! 👍🏾

  • Courtney Seyl

    When I’m so close to finishing a first draft, everything can seem both exciting and terrifying… https://writersblocq.wordpress.com/2016/03/25/been-awhile-2/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      lol I hear you! It. Will. Be. Okay. I promise. 🙂

  • http://www.bdcolourdesign.net.au Bettina Deda

    I shared my memoir writing journey on my blog and am currently facing one of the biggest challenges: pitching my book to a publisher. My newest post will go live on Easter Sunday. Check out the blog here: http://www.bdcolourdesign.net.au/blog/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Pitch it. 🙂 Good luck, Bettina.

  • Erin Bryant Beadle

    I shared this on Facebook the other day but haven’t yet added it to my blog. It’s something very personal, an ugly moment that I wouldn’t necessarily want to share with the world. However, over the course of several weeks, I could feel the Holy Spirit prompting me to share my mess with others, to be vulnerable and honest and transparent as a means of encouraging others in their weakness. I’m glad that I was open and that I obeyed the Spirit!

    https://www.facebook.com/erin.bryantbeadle/posts/10153778837004230

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      A great way to release the frustration, Erin. It’s a credit to your writing, I could feel your experience. WoW. You’ve got quite the talent.

  • Nancy Kay Grace

    This is my post about knowing God as Father. I know many people struggle with this idea. It was risky for me to share as I opened with a personal family story. http://www.nancykaygrace.com/knowing-god-father/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Thank you for sharing, Nancy. I tweeted it! One thing I noticed that might help others when reading your content is that the sharing bar covered some of the words to the left and I had difficulty reading the article. You might want to just add share buttons at the bottom of the article to make it easier to read. Just a tip that I hope helps others share your work. 😉

      • Nancy Kay Grace

        thanks for the tip and the tweet! I’m not sure how to move the sharing bar…

        • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

          Moving it should be in the options of the plugin, but if you’re not sure about that it’s best to ask someone you know who is familiar with those settings. You don’t want to toy with it if you’re not sure. It’s not the end of the world, but if you can get them below the article I think that will help your readers. 🙂

    • Oliver

      Tweeted…

  • Lauren R. Tharp

    I wrote about my month: http://laurentharp.net/march-2016/ More specifically — I wrote about coming to terms with being raped, being a successful writer, and becoming my DnD groups Dungeon Master.

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      I admire your strength and tenacity, Lauren. God bless you. – I wanted to tweet it but could not find any share buttons. Am I not seeing them? Bests.

      • Lauren R. Tharp

        Thank you, Bryan.

        Shoot. I must have forgotten to add them back in when I rebuilt my site. Here’s a Click to Tweet link for you instead: http://ctt.ec/4C0n6

        Thank you again!

  • Oliver

    I think this is a great idea Bryan! I plan on sharing some of the other links posted. This post deals with the steps to reach your goals regardless of adversity. http://www.knucklepopbrand.com/KPBMAG/2016/02/15/why-hasnt-my-ship-come-in-yet/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      What a helpful post, Oliver. It’s important to remember the investment part of waiting for your ship to come in, because if you haven’t invested, no ship is coming. So true. Enjoyed the photos immensely. Thanks for sharing. Tweeted!

      • OLIVER

        Thanks Bryan!

  • Kathy

    Kathryn Walczyk: I wrote this blog before Easter. I spent years writing to no body and to myself. I am beginning to tell my story, a story of surviving childhood clergy sexual abuse and now growing into an advocate, listener, and writer. https://spiritualmiddleground.wordpress.com/2016/03/16/an-easter-wish/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      You made me want to watch the movie yet again, Kathy. So important. I share it.

      • Kathy

        Thank YOU.

  • http://www.myinkdance.com Rebecca

    What a great idea! I wrote this piece because I so often feel less than everyone else…maybe others can relate? “To The One Who Feels Like their Life Is Plain” http://www.myinkdance.com/2016/02/17/to-the-one-who-feels-like-their-life-is-plain/

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Loved this! Favorite line: “No matter where you are or what you are doing in your life there is value.” So true! Tweeted.

      • http://www.myinkdance.com Rebecca

        Thanks Bryan!

  • Carrie Aulenbacher

    Phew – probably the hardest thing I’ve written in a long time. (Not sure I can handle that many tears through every blog post. But I’ll try!!) It came up from a deep place that I didn’t know need addressing, so thanks for inspiring me to write about my father!

    http://www.carrieaulenbacher.com/#!Write-Through-The-Heart/twzxn/56fa911e0cf2eb66d970f728

    • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

      Sweet. Loved it, Carrie. I hope your father always remembers. Best wishes.

      • Carrie Aulenbacher

        Thank you SO much – yay! I feel it’s driven me to be the writer I am is to capture moments with loved ones in case they ever forget. Appreciate your motivation to do this. I want to strive do to it on every post now!

  • Jocelyn

    Bryan I’ve thought about your challenge since you presented the idea. You asked us to share something that scares us to write about. In light of that, I wrote a post today, sharing my heart.

    http://justalittlesouthernhospitality.blogspot.com/2016/04/busy-little-squirrel.html

  • Christine Henderson

    Here’s the link to my post which discusses getting past the perceived rejection from critique groups. http://thewritechris.blogspot.com/2016/03/why-do-i-bother.html
    At the end of the post I have the link back here. I tried to post this 2 days ago, but it did not show up, so I’m trying again!

  • http://www.prisqua.com/ Prisqua

    As the launch of my first book is coming closer and closer I am absolutely terrified. I made a mistake. I should have waited before deciding on publishing it. But for me it is a learning process. Now I know more than I did when I started writing and studying. I should be proud but I am scared. http://chasingrainbows.xyz/moments-define-writers-life/

  • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

    For everyone who posted in the last few days and over the next few weeks, I just had sugary and will read and tweet your work soon.