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7 Positive Responses to Your Inner Editor (to Get Back to Writing)

Bad news first. It would be wonderful to say you can love to hate your inner editor, but really, we just have to hate to hate them. No matter how skilled we are as writers, no matter how much experience we’ve had, no matter anything, they will always be there on some level.

That’s the scary, hard truth. But there’s good news!

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The good news is dealing with your inner editor doesn’t have to be so painful. You can learn to tune them out or, as I like to do, kill them with kindness. Your inner editor is within you. It is you, just twisted into someone that has no other hobby than to wrongfully belittle you and your work. It makes sense that the best solution to having to live with yourself is to, well, be kind to yourself.

I like to give my inner editor more of a life than this disembodied voice that gives me a headache. It makes them easier to picture, talk to, and confront. His name is Difficult Dan. He’s fond of red sweaters and chunky glasses and Chai tea. He’s also kind of scruffy and has been balding ever since I’ve known him.

Difficult Dan has always been loud and annoying, but he’s gotten quieter over the years. Every now and then he’ll pop up with some Starbucks and unsolicited words of unhelpful advice, usually when I’m already having a bad day. But I don’t have a lot of trouble shoving him back in his little box where he lives out his sad, lonely days. (Difficult Dan sometimes hangs Christmas lights in his box for the holidays, but that’s about as cheerful as he gets. It’s not that he’s forced to live in a box, even for Christmas. He just wants to for some strange, unknown reason.)

How do I get him to finally go away so I can get some writing done? I respond to his negative statements with something a little more positive. Everyone’s inner editor is different (they might be male or female, young or old, or maybe not even human), but they generally have something to say along these lines.

  1. “You’ll never be as good as [your favorite author].”

Positive response: “[Your favorite author] and I each have fantastic styles unique to ourselves.”

This leaves Difficult Dan speechless. He never saw it that way. That doesn’t mean he won’t forget what you said a week later, but it does the trick in the moment. Of course you won’t be the same as your favorite author. But that doesn’t mean you’re worse than them in any way. Writers are these amazing, talented, incredibly unique creatures. You have your own, beautiful style.

  1. “No one will want to read your book.”

Positive response: “I don’t have any control over who may or may not want to read my book, but I’ll find an audience who appreciates my work.”

Yes, some people won’t want to read your book. And that’s okay. Chances are, it’s not the book for them anyway. And they’re probably not the readers for you. Just like you and another person might not be compatible as friends or romantic partners or any acquaintance, really, it’s best not to force it. It’s better to surround yourself with people you work well with, and readers who appreciate your work.

  1. “You should write more.”

Positive response: “I’m doing my best and will continue to write in a way that makes me feel good about myself and my writing.”

As long as you’re doing the best by your writing and by yourself, who is Difficult Dan or any other inner editor to say that you should be doing more? How can you do more than your best? That’s absurd! If you feel good, shove Difficult Dan back in his box and put a lid on it.

  1. “This draft is crap.”

Positive response: “I can always edit what doesn’t work for me.”

Here’s a not-so-secret secret: everyone writes crap. Everyone. The best writers in the universe, the greatest poets and novelists that have written or have yet to write, all of them will write crap. It’s easy to think someone like J.K. Rowling or Victor Hugo never wrote crap, because you never see those drafts. You see the polished, glimmering version of those early stages. That draft you just wrote that you want to shove under a mattress or crumple up for the garbage can? That could be the early stage of Harry Potter or Les Misérables.

  1. “You should give up.”

Positive response: “I should fight through this and prove that I can overcome obstacles.”

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We brandish our pens to slash our way through daily struggles like a knight might wave a sword at a dragon. If we gave up at the first sign of trouble, we would’ve stopped writing years ago. Don’t give Difficult Dan that sort of power. Believe me, it’ll only make him stronger and he’ll never let you live it down. Losers like him love to shove their victories in your face. You’re better than him.

  1. “Why can’t you think of anything to write?”

Positive response: “What’s blocking my creativity and how can I handle it?”

Difficult Dan’s question is a snide, rhetorical one. Combat it with one that’s being asked for the true sake of curiosity and helpful knowledge. If there’s a problem, find the root of it and make a logical progression to the solution. It might take a little digging, but it will be worth it.

  1. “You’re a terrible writer.”

Positive response: “No writer is perfect and I am always learning to be better than the writer I was yesterday.”

Petty insults. Is that all Difficult Dan has? It might seem strange that his strongest attack is actually the weakest one. This negative statement is nothing more than a few words worthy of an internet troll. And you know what they say, don’t feed the trolls. Realize that his argument is false, that you can only become better from here, and rise above. After all, it’s hard to take anything seriously from a guy who voluntarily lives in a box.

What does your inner editor look like? How can you respond positively to their negativity?

About The Magic Violinist

I am a home schooled teenager who daydreams, writes, reads, and does nerdy stuff in my free time. I have two awesome parents, a wonderful little brother, and an adorable, crazy dog named Scout. I blog at The Magic Violinist. I'm also a contributor to The Audacity to be a Writer. I'd say that I want to be an author when I grow up, but I don't think I can wait that long.

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  • Radu Balas

    great article

  • Katharine

    My inner editor and I are friends. I’m not multi-personality, either! Haha!

    Actually I am she.

    I hear comments and since I write by hand. (You know: Pencil? Paper? Anyone?) I am free to jot notes in the margins when Ms I.E. speaks. But I only accept rational comments, comments that will help or that may deserve consideration. Later.

    The other voice I hear is from the Pit and I rebuke it.

    Oh, and that comment that I’ll never be as good as Frank Peretti?…My answer is that it is true, but it is also true that he will never be as good as me, at what I do. 😉

    • That’s a big perk of the pencil/paper approach (although I have to admit, I’m usually too impatient with my inability to scribble as fast as my thoughts are coming to do much of it). I love writing in the margins as I go.

      Very good way to phrase that. 😉

      • Katharine

        Thanks!

  • autonomous

    Great article.
    My inner editor is Mumpus Muse. He sometimes poses as my Creative Muse. When I write, I sometimes trip over him and disturb his incessant naps, and he growls and snaps at my heels. Creative and Mumpus are identical twins, and often do, as identical twins are known to do, trade places to confuse and confound me. There are times when I wish them both dead, as in “Bottle of wine, fruit of the vine, when you gonna let me get sober. Leave me alone, let me go home, wanna go home and start over.” A pox on both of them.
    But, sober always brings with it cravings that can’t be ignored.

    • Mumpus and Creative sound infuriating to deal with! With a little practice, I’m sure you’ll be able to tell them apart in no time.

  • Miriam N

    Hey you! It’s been a while.

    My inner critique is mean as mean can get. I don’t know her as well as I might need to but I know that she mainly speaks out of my self doubt. The only way I’ve found to keep her quiet is to do the very thing she’s giving me the most trouble on. Great article. I’ll have to try some of these approaches too. Nice to connect with you again!

    Miriam N.

    • Nice to see you commenting again! 🙂 Self-doubt is one of the easiest things for inner editors to latch on to. Maybe as you get to know her, you’ll know how best to handle her.

  • Karen Sargent

    I enjoyed reading this post…but when I realized the author is a teenager, the high school English teacher in me got so excited! I enjoyed meeting Difficult Dan. 🙂

  • Nicole M

    Mine is an ancient schoolteacher, or librarian, with steel grey hair pulled back in a bun, horn-rimmed glasses and sensible shoes. She likes to walk around slapping a ruler on her palm. I feel like I am back in first grade, learning to write sentences when she is around. I often give her things to file or organize to get her out of the way. She likes things orderly.

    • She sounds nasty! At least she can help with the organizational bits. That’s not always an easy thing to handle without help.

      • Nicole M

        Oh she can be. But would you believe she likes to color? And I just happen to have a whole stack of coloring books….

  • Excellent article and boys and girls you are just as good!

  • Barb

    Insiring article!

  • Astro JD Shastri

    Great post author, keep up the good work like this only.

  • I love Difficult Dan. I’m going to name my little editor and then I don’t think he’ll be so scary. Maybe something like Drop Dead Freditor

  • Believe that the writer should always be in a position to reconcile with his Difficult Dan, and that is a challenge! I am a ‘Writing Tom’ and he is ‘Troubling Jerry’. While I am writing, he is there watching me, laughing at me and just do those irksome things to distract me. He is now always right and not always wrong either. I cannot take him out as without Jerry there is no Tom. So I have to reconcile with him to make him calm and move on!